Light In The Dark Coaching Services
Are you looking for the light at the end of the tunnel?
Has parenting left you feeling overwhelmed, worried, guilty, confused and like you're failing? Resulting in you being in some pretty dark places?If so you're in the right place! Welcome to Light In The Dark Coaching, a trauma informed, neuro-affirming coaching service set up to support parents who are struggling.I work with parents who are deeply committed to their own healing, those who are invested in breaking dysfunctional patterns and are striving to create emotionally safe spaces and increase nervous system regulation for themselves and their children.I'm here to be your coach, somatic practitioner and peer mentor while you navigate the challenges you're facing. Using both my professional expertise and lived experience to guide you to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Does your child require an alternative style of parenting?
Some of us find ourselves having to completly rethink what parenting should look like.We have no blueprint for how to parent in the way that is needed to meet the needs of children who do not fit into conventional 'boxes'.
Children who may be highly sensitive, neurodivergent or carry significant trauma.When you're parenting a child who needs a different approach it can feel incredibly isolating. There is often a lot of fear that you're doing it wrong and this can create self doubt and difficulty knowing what to do for the best.I am able to support you through the process of discovering how best to meet your child's needs and provide a new and updated blueprint, one that focuses on your unique circumstances and your unique child because there is no 'one size fits all' approach for humans.My work is grounded in the recognition that humans are neurodiverse. I focus on the uniqueness of each person and believe deeply that all behaviour makes sense.I am so grateful to have been mentored by two leaders in the space of child development, and behaviour, Dr Laura Markham and Robbn Gobbel.
Combined with my own training in child development and relational neuroscience I can support you to parent in a way that honours your relationship with your child while deeply supporting their unique development.
Are you wanting to feel more confident in your role as a parent?
It can be hard to trust in your ability when we are so conditioned to see the way a child behaves as a direct reflection of a person's parenting ability. This is particularly challenging when parenting a child who experiences chronic nervous system dysregulation and presents often with distressed behaviour, such as frequent crying, screaming, lashing out at themselves or others, anxiety and demand avoidance.How different would it feel to have confidence in your ability to show up in the way your child needs and trust that you're doing the right thing?
I specialise in helping make sense of behaviour, yours, your child's and human beings in general.With my extensive training in the neurobiology of behaviour I can support you to unpack behaviour in a way that fosters compassion, curiosity and confidence.
Do you frequently experience burnout and struggle to remain regulated?
To be human is to experience emotional trauma and many of us are unaware of how much we are carrying until we become parents and find ourselves forced to take on our own trauma healing in order to be the parent our child needs and deserves.
Often it is in relationship with our children that our deepest attachment wounds and limiting beliefs are triggered and we become versions of ourselves that fill us with guilt and shame, leaving us feeling broken and incapable.Many of us try to overcome our challenges through willpower and determination alone and are crushed each time we end up back in the same dark place of despair.
This is because trauma dosen't just live in our minds- in our conscious memories and thoughts, it lives in our bodies.Through working with and listening to the stories our bodies have to tell we can not only process the trapped survival patterns from the past, we can also access the wisdom that is held there. The truth about who we really are, not the version of us that we view through the limiting beliefs that we hold.
With access to our true selves we can begin to live more authentically, develop self trust, increase emotional reslilency and operate from a space of self compassion.As a certified somatic trauma informed coach and Embodied Porcessing practitioner I am able to support you to work with your body and nervous system to help you live a life that aligns with your true self.
See what others are saying
I wanted to work with Sam for my children but it turned out I needed clarity and support myself. Sam’s understanding & help on trauma is unmatched. Sam’s kindness, compassion & generosity has immensely helped me, which has indirectly helped the family dynamics on a grand scale. I would highly recommend Sam” - M“Working with Sam has enabled me to access the deep subconscious parts that I had suppressed and have been working on connecting with over two decades. The integration of EP and Brain-spotting facilitated by Sam’s beautiful and calm approach I was given the space to process and heal my early years trauma by processing emotions and connecting with my highest self and integrating love and acceptance for who I am. I highly recommend working with Sam and the safe space she provides’” -G"I was looking for a coach to help me navigate a difficult time in my parenting journey and was lucky enough to be matched with Sam. I found her to be understanding, compassionate and was able to provide clarity about situations in our life when I was finding things hard to understand. Sam really helped me and my family, the sessions with her have brought us all much closer together and are now able to support one another better. Thank you Sam!" - A"If you are finding things tough, Sam is 100% the person you need! I am a parent to two neurodivergent children, as well as being neurodivergent myself and life, parenting them and knowing what’s best is tough on all of us. Sam has such an in depth understanding of everything and knows so much about the nervous system and how the brain works - things I’ve never even thought of. She is so empathetic and understanding of my situation and really makes me feel like I can achieve being the best parent I can to my children. I have only had a few sessions with her so far but feel like I know so much more already and have begun to make changes in the way I deal with things and that then has a huge impact on home life for my family.If you’re questioning this service then don’t. Just do it, you won’t regret it! Thank you so much Sam x" -S"I have had a couple of sessions with Sam and I am in awe of this modality that she is offering. I went on a huge journey the 1st session feeling things I had no idea I was still holding on to! I felt so much lighter after letting go of some old beliefs and became so much more compassionate for myself understanding how much my unprocessed trauma had still impacted my life. I was excited for my next session. Between sessions I had been contacted by my estranged son and he become very abusive accusing me of some awful things. I had already built such an awesome trust with Sam that I was able to share this and process it at my next session which was incredible. I would never have believed I could have done that. Sam held such a non judgmental empathic space for me it was beautiful. I highly recommend Sam & am truly grateful our paths aligned" - L"Sam is an incredibly intuitive coach who has a real gift for getting to the heart of things. We first came to her for parenting support, but her guidance was so valuable that we naturally continued into relationship and personal coaching as well.
I gained so much from her insight, both as a parent and as an individual. Her words are calm and soothing, yet they go straight to the root of the problem and offer the clarity and antidote you need. She always gave so generously of her time, and her empathy and understanding made me feel truly seen and heard, which in itself was deeply healing.
I wholeheartedly recommend Sam to anyone seeking thoughtful, compassionate, and effective coaching for the challenges they’re facing in parenting, relationships, or life in general". - S“I’ve spent years - decades actually - trying to feel better using self-help books, traditional talking therapies, CBT and antidepressants. I tried mindfulness apps and mediation but they just seemed to stress me out more. I read and read but despite learning more I still couldn’t shift the dial on how I felt. I then reached a point where I was just totally overloaded. Fortunately I’d already come across Sam and there was something about her which just stayed with me. So I finally plucked up the courage to get in touch with her and I haven’t looked back. The “work” I’m doing now is the bravest thing I’ve ever done and the reward is finally feeling like I’m getting to know my true self and breaking free of patterns and relationships which I no longer need as crutches. I feel like for years I’ve been trying to run with a broken leg thinking I just needed better trainers! Sam’s guidance has enabled me to see what it actually takes to heal. It’s the best decision and I can’t recommend her enough.
For anyone who is wanting to improve their relationship with themselves - and therefore their capacity to show up for others - I honestly cannot recommend Sam enough.” - E"I’ve had several embodied processing sessions with Sam, and each one has helped me uncover deeper layers of my hidden psyche. These sessions have allowed me to process unresolved emotions and past traumas in a profound way. In our most recent session, Sam introduced brainspotting, which proved to be incredibly powerful and brought to light insights I hadn’t accessed before. Throughout our work together, Sam has created a deeply safe and supportive space, making it possible for me to explore and heal while feeling truly understood. I highly recommend working with Sam—she is an exceptional practitioner". - C
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I offer a free 30 minute consultation so you can find out if working with me is right for you.
